AtWarWithGod
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My partner of three years just discreetly told me not propose this saturday.
Any thoughts ?
Any thoughts ?
Talk to them about the future of your relationship.
My partner of three years just discreetly told me not propose this saturday.
Any thoughts ?
Well we are both off to uni this September, And I wanted to propose so she knew I truly Loved her and desired no other. So what she wants I am unsure, and I really can't face her about it because she tells me that she does love me? Maybe I am more emotionally ready and mature for that commitment?
Don't propose.
So you are 17? 18? It sounds like she understands that at your age and with a life marker that you are about to experience that people change. That you are both in the stage in your life where you are growing and learning about life and yourself. Why get married now anyway? What is the rush?
If you can't face her to ask her what her life goals, priorities and intentions are then perhaps you are not as mature as you think you are. How can you even think about marriage and all that goes along with it when you can't even have a conversation with the person you love?
So you love her and you desire no other. How do you know? What life experience do you bring? What do you have to offer? What will getting married accomplish? (These are not accusatory questions but rather things for you to consider). And I'm sorry to say that at 18 you can't even begin to know all the things you don't know. Physiologically your brain hasn't fully developed yet. If you are to be together for the rest of your lives then you will. If you are not to be, then marriage won't stop the end of your relationship from happening, it will only delay it and cause a multitude of problems and complications along with it. Is part of your wishing to propose a way to hold on to what you have? Do you fear things will change come September and so this is a way to ensure you will be together? If it is, decisions motivated by fear are always to treated with caution.
I will never marry.
no, with you?Are you laughing at me?