Here's the current anomaly I'm wrangling. My friend decided very spcifically she wants to visit today, spend the night, spend all day tomorrow visiting and go home. Today is Mother's Day. I have my grandma to visit, my sister and I want to take my mom to dinner, I have some work to do tomorrow and gardening. My friend has zero empathy for my schedule or plans because she's very, very wrapped up in her schedule, currently she wants to arrive at 6pm so her daughter doesn't have to go two days without a nap which means my sister and I have to rearrange our dinner schedule, etc etc. The point is not that my friend is inconsiderate, she keeps apologizing if her visiting is inconvenient and I keep trying to make it work, but she's holding fast to this fussy, inconsequential detail that her daughter nap today and not tomorrow...
It's like, in metaphor, there's an issue on your end that TIME is needed to do something before visiting. I can't explain it. If so that's f***ing rad.