Sunbags
Sunbags
I've found the nuclear family to be a very good system tested through trial and error over thousands of years in thousands of different cultures. Flaws can sneak their way in, but they are from the outside. Yes an alcoholic father is a bad thing in a nuclear family, but the fault is in alcoholism. Yes these "honor killings" of murdering daughters because they were raped is one of the most despicable things of all time, but that is the fault of the culture they are in. Not that you have done anything wrong, sweetheart, but I find that many people like to target "the family" as any number of bad things and not trace the real problems. Yeah, it's a bit off-topic, but that's just how brain works. My mind is not a centrifuge!
While opinions are lovely little things, the amount of people who are mentally and physically (when I say physically, I mean people who have had the shit knocked out of them as a child. Not because of alcohol, but because their father was beaten too, as was their father, and so on and so on....) hurt by the 'nuclear family', is quite disturbing. Everyone I know and can think of despises how they were brought up. The nuclear family is a nice idea (for those whose interests it serves). But it simply does not work. Want evidence? Ask ANYBODY! How many people can say, "yes, I have absolutely no complaints about my childhood with respect to my familial upbringing"? Very few, I imagine.