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well, maybe I am
How do you people feel about posters calling another poster a slut, a slapper and a cock sucker? Do you think it's harmless? Acceptable?
It's not a hypothetical question, which is why I can tell you that as far as the people who make the rules around here, it is not a big deal.
My friend lightupvirginmary was called like that by a poster named yesitis. If you try to find it, it may be a bit difficult (but not impossible), because he edited his posts since.
lightupvirginmary and a few more people including myself have reported those posts as offensive. I was offended by his word, both on a personal level (as a friend of lightupvirginmary) and on a more general level (as a woman). I think this poster should get banned or apologize for his words. The mods don't seem to share that view. I guess it's hard for some people to see things as offensive when they think it's not directly about them (which is not even true, since sexual harassment *is* about us, all of us).
Editing a post doesn't take away the damage that has been done. Now he got to act cool about what he did, and re-write his offensive posts in what he probably see as a witty way, while one of the smartest and most interesting person around here is hurt and says she will not be posting anymore. This makes me very sad. I think the lost is all ours. I will miss you on the board, lightupvirginmary.
The massage of the day: you can call whoever you like however you like. You will not get banned for it. Well, at least as long as your sig pic is not too big.
It's not a hypothetical question, which is why I can tell you that as far as the people who make the rules around here, it is not a big deal.
My friend lightupvirginmary was called like that by a poster named yesitis. If you try to find it, it may be a bit difficult (but not impossible), because he edited his posts since.
lightupvirginmary and a few more people including myself have reported those posts as offensive. I was offended by his word, both on a personal level (as a friend of lightupvirginmary) and on a more general level (as a woman). I think this poster should get banned or apologize for his words. The mods don't seem to share that view. I guess it's hard for some people to see things as offensive when they think it's not directly about them (which is not even true, since sexual harassment *is* about us, all of us).
Editing a post doesn't take away the damage that has been done. Now he got to act cool about what he did, and re-write his offensive posts in what he probably see as a witty way, while one of the smartest and most interesting person around here is hurt and says she will not be posting anymore. This makes me very sad. I think the lost is all ours. I will miss you on the board, lightupvirginmary.
The massage of the day: you can call whoever you like however you like. You will not get banned for it. Well, at least as long as your sig pic is not too big.
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