I think my neighbor may be dead

bogdana

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So all of my neighbors are 70 +. I'm pretty sure one of them is dead now he's been at the local hospital for three weeks and they keep moving him to more serious wards. He had several problems BEFORE the MI so there is not much hope he's coming back.

I know you were expecting a "theres a weird smell and no one's left the condo next door", sorry not that interesting :D

Anyone have any suggestions on how to keep the awkwardness down to a tolerable level with his wife when she tells us he's gone? I don't connect with these neighbors much, I like them okay but they have their nosey/crotchety/ know it all moments like most seniors so we were not exactly close. I dread them giving me funeral information. THat is the last thing I need to go to.
 
So all of my neighbors are 70 +. I'm pretty sure one of them is dead now he's been at the local hospital for three weeks and they keep moving him to more serious wards. He had several problems BEFORE the MI so there is not much hope he's coming back.

I know you were expecting a "theres a weird smell and no one's left the condo next door", sorry not that interesting :D

Anyone have any suggestions on how to keep the awkwardness down to a tolerable level with his wife when she tells us he's gone? I don't connect with these neighbors much, I like them okay but they have their nosey/crotchety/ know it all moments like most seniors so we were not exactly close. I dread them giving me funeral information. THat is the last thing I need to go to.

Show them the random pictures thread and say "at least it didn't go down like this?"
 
I'm sure they won't invite you to the funeral. Just say the usual, "I'm sorry about your husband's passing, if there's anything I can do to help let me know", they more than likely won't ask you for anything. Maybe cook something if you have the time.
 
have you spoken to them often? if you had not you could have just lied and said you did not speak english.
but seriously,
talking to people who have had a recent death is very awkward.when my mother died, at first i was very distant, but then when i saw my friends Ijust wanted to do "normal" things and not talk about it.they wanted to bring it up and i did not want them to unless i wanted to.
its hard to keep it less than awkward though.i would just keep it short and simple,use the usual cliches people say in such moments.
 
I'm sure they won't invite you to the funeral. Just say the usual, "I'm sorry about your husband's passing, if there's anything I can do to help let me know", they more than likely won't ask you for anything. Maybe cook something if you have the time.

Not the random picture thread? That would be soooooo much easier than cooking.


Simply say "I am sorry for your loss." give a hug and if you are given wake / funeral information you have to show to at least the wake out of respect to everyone else on the block including the widow.
 
thanks guys. I dont want to say a cliche but theres just nothing else to say, is there? Death's one of those things that just cant be dealt with by words.
 
thanks guys. I dont want to say a cliche but theres just nothing else to say, is there? Death's one of those things that just cant be dealt with by words.

It can be dealt with cards...

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I'm sure they won't invite you to the funeral. Just say the usual, "I'm sorry about your husband's passing, if there's anything I can do to help let me know", they more than likely won't ask you for anything. Maybe cook something if you have the time.

This. And go to the wake if you have nothing better to do. ;):)
 
yeah, thats pretty much what im going to do. im afraid i come off insincere though. Its not that i dont care about them, but its that he's been going downhill since last year, and he is pretty aged, esp since he was a longtime pack a day smoker. I figure every year he had after 60 was a blessing from God and he was on 'borrowed time' as they say. Its easy for me to be so objective since I have no emotional ties to them.
 
So all of my neighbors are 70 +. I'm pretty sure one of them is dead now he's been at the local hospital for three weeks and they keep moving him to more serious wards. He had several problems BEFORE the MI so there is not much hope he's coming back.

<b>I know you were expecting a "theres a weird smell and no one's left the condo next door", sorry not that interesting :D
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Anyone have any suggestions on how to keep the awkwardness down to a tolerable level with his wife when she tells us he's gone? I don't connect with these neighbors much, I like them okay but they have their nosey/crotchety/ know it all moments like most seniors so we were not exactly close. I dread them giving me funeral information. THat is the last thing I need to go to.

Gee, I was really hoping it was that.

I wish my neighbors would die. Well that's too harsh, but I really wish they would move out because I can always hear them having sex at the weirdest times :o

You could always pretend to not be home ;)
 
Hah, the other day here some of my neighbors were having the loudest, most porn-starish sex ever.

I think, unless it was 3am, I'd find all that moderately entertaining, especially considering the age and condition said neighbors are in!
 
Maybe that's what killed 'em.

Smoking for several decades and who knows what his diet was like is more likely!

He'd have died a long time ago had he not quit. I really see the effects of smoking now. Cigarettes are really far more sickening than the average american realizes. I'm a bit of a hypocrite, I guess, because I'll enjoy a cigar every 3 or 4 months or so, therefore I am not completely smoke free. But I sure wish I could convince people I know to at least move to using cigs less, even if it means using a patch. the nicotine is bad, but the smoke really wrecks the lungs.
 
Smoking for several decades and who knows what his diet was like is more likely!

He'd have died a long time ago had he not quit. I really see the effects of smoking now. Cigarettes are really far more sickening than the average american realizes. I'm a bit of a hypocrite, I guess, because I'll enjoy a cigar every 3 or 4 months or so, therefore I am not completely smoke free. But I sure wish I could convince people I know to at least move to using cigs less, even if it means using a patch. the nicotine is bad, but the smoke really wrecks the lungs.
Surely you don't inhale cigars though?
 
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